Do You Give In The Name Of Service? Or Slavery?

Service To Others Is The Souls Mission.

Glorious morning! Let’s expand on a quote from Sue Theoele.

“ An essential part of a happy, healthy life is being of service to others. “

Sue Theoele is an author and psychologist.

What this quote says to me is, our souls need to express what the soul is, and that’s love. When we serve others, our soul gets to perform its natural essence. If our soul is not happy it will weigh on our spirits like a 50lb coat that we can't take off. The soul may whisper, “ stop by your mom’s house to say hi and give her a hug ‘ but your mind can easily say, I will do it tomorrow, I have too much to do today. The soul is egoless and has only one function and mission, to express love. It's our mind that trips us up and keeps us busy and distracted.

When we quiet our minds each day, we can grow in soul awareness. Our soul is ALWAYS waiting patiently to express through our spirit and body. Our soul is the spark of the divine and knows we have free will. We choose to listen to our soul or we choose to busily ignore it. One choice reaps the rewards that the quote speaks of and the other choice shrinks our life instead of expanding it. If a happy soul is the goal, then we better start learning how to be of service to others. A big no no is when we have never learned to serve ourselves first. What do I mean by that? We can't give away to others what we don't have ourselves. If someone asked us to borrow a fork lift so they can move some heavy objects and you don't have one, well……you see we must learn how to connect to our soul to experience self love and we do that by making sure we have a daily self care routine. Some of us were modeled that as children but most of us were not. Children live what they learn. Although my mom loved me very much, she put others needs before hers too often and didn't make the time to recharge and fill her cup and was emotionally depleted at times. We are no good to anyone if we are always depleted. And more importantly no good to ourselves if we are not happy or healthy.

Service to others should not mimic a form of slavery. When our own needs are met, it is effortless to serve others, in fact, it feels so good because our soul is satisfied. Years ago when I was a stay at home mom, I was constantly serving the children and husband but did not balance it with self care and I paid the price. Although caring for my loved ones was so rewarding, It could have been equally rewarding had I carved out time to connect and recharge each day. Now that it is a priority to nourish my soul for my sake, I can now in turn, serve others and enjoy it without it taking a toll on my well being, in fact now that I have learned to love myself properly, I have lots to give away and it only adds to my vitality. I sometimes used to let certain loved ones unhappiness drive me to make them happy, that's another big no,no.

We are not responsible for anyone's happiness. Happiness is an inside job, and that means we can only make ourselves happy. When we learn to cultivate our own happiness we are no longer searching for others to fulfill us. Our soul has a direct connection to endless amounts of love, there is no need to steal it from others, or to let others steal yours,  they can access it themselves. We are here to share our love with each other and that's how we serve. We serve by listening with every bit of our attention, we serve by showing up for people who ask for guidance. We serve by getting out of our heads when we interact with people and get into our hearts.

There are so many ways to serve others BUT, make sure your cup is already full.

Do you give endlessly to a fault? Do you feel the only way to feel love is to try to make others happy? Backpack therapy helps bring yourself back into focus so you can learn the art of self care. Make a free discovery call today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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