Do you hurt people?

Glorious morning!

 Let’s expand today on a quote from the Dalai Lama.

“ Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them “

Here is a bit of information about the man behind the quote. The Dalia Lama is the 14th in line of that order. His Name is Lhamo Dhonup. He was born in 1963 and describes himself as a simple Buddhist monk.

Wow, he says our prime purpose is to basically be of service to others, that can be a challenge in this distracted world we live in today for sure. This quote says to me, to always be mindful of your actions or we end up living haphazardly and selfishly. What I mean by that is, if we don't learn to give what we want instead of just wanting what we can give to ourselves, we become unbalanced. We end up selfish, only knowing how to please and get for ourselves. If the healthy behaviour of a service orientated heart was not modeled to us growing up, then it's even trickier to become selfless

. Another thing that makes one selfish and self serving, is someone who lives with a victim mindset. When someone believes that the world has been unfair to them and that life happens to them instead of for them, then they simply won't learn how to help others. If we are always focused on our own needs, then there isn't room for giving, just taking. Then we get to the part of, "well if you can’t help them at least don't hurt them ". Living a selfish life and just taking or just receiving is one thing but just taking AND hurting others along the way is even more of a drain on the collective. In a perfect world there would be a balance of giving and receiving and no one would hurt anyone. I think this world is getting there little by little as we evolve into more conscious human beings. When we take responsibility for cleaning up our own stuff, our baggage. We all have some. Then we free ourselves up to give to others and likewise not hurt them. For instance, if you were physically hit by a parent growing up, chances are you wouldn't think twice about hitting your own child. It wouldn't be a big deal to you. But take that same person who recognized being hit is not fun and they hated it, will make a conscious choice not to cause harm to their own children and break that dysfunctional cycle. Now the child who was not hit by that parent, when they grow up won't even make the choice to hit their child because it was never shown to them . They wont have that dyfuctional response to stress. This is how we evolve as a species, we learn from self reflection and make better choices. If the parent who was hit as a child remains in a victim mindset and carries the anger that developed from and for the abusing parent, we could see why the cycle gets handed down and abuse continues. The parent who breaks the chain and does not hit their own children, healed themselves enough to be someone who doesnt hurt people.

Ever hear the expression “ Hurt people, Hurt people? “ ( I think I will do tomorrow's article on that ) well it’s true. If you do not heal your childhood wounds, you will remain that little victim in your childhood. When we carry that baggage, it keeps us stuck and repeating the very things that we didn't like when it happened to us. I'm sure we have all been guilty of being a selfish taker at times and hurting others. The magical reality of this life is, we can start to overcome and change those things whenever we choose. We can work on becoming a giver with a subservient heart. We can also learn to love ourselves enough to not hurt others.

Do you struggle with giving to others? Do you find yourself at times hurting the ones you love and you don't want to do that anymore but dont even know why you are doing it? I can help bring those things to light. Make a free discovery call today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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