From unconscious to conscious

Glorious morning!

Today we are going to look at a quote from Carl. G. Jung. He was a psychologist born in 1875. He was big on studying about the unconscious and conscious parts of the mind. He also believed in the collective unconscious , which he believed we are all a part of and connected to. Carl Jung has many quotes to contemplate. Today I chose this one.

  “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate"

What this speaks to me is, when we live life without going inward to examine our own behaviors and choices, we will have an outcome that reflects an unbridled ( unconscious ) mind. An unbridled mind is an open stage for unconscious behavior to run a muck. Unconscious behavior is a default response from our old programming that we are not aware of. On the contrary, when we live life through introspection and take responsibility for our choices, we are calling upon our consciousness to help move us forward. A bridled mind ( in control and harnessed ) is an open stage for the conscious mind to create a movie directed by yourself, instead of an old movie playing out over and over .The scary part is when we are unaware of our habitual behaviors from our unconsciousness, we keep repeating the same things in life , the good and the bad. What movie will you create? What does this quote say to you?

My tai chi gung teacher once said to me when I had a realization that my negative experiences in my relationships were a result of my own decisions, he said “you don’t know what you don’t know”. This is so true because the last thing I wanted was to create a life that included a dysfunctional marriage, obviously I was not aware at the time that I was creating just that. When I finally started to examine how I got myself into such an undesirable mess, I realized I needed to know what decisions I made that got me there and WHY it got me there, so I could correct my choices going forward. I guess we can call that becoming more conscious. I then started to be more deliberate with what I wanted to create in my life, I started doing things with more purposeful intentions. When I would get triggered from something my partner would say , I would not respond right away, unlike my usual default reaction of getting mad and counter acting with angry words. I found that when I waited to respond, I had a more intelligent response instead of an emotionally charged one. Over a period of time doing this ( It was not always easy to go against an old habitual response ) I found myself getting more peaceful. When I got more peaceful, my partner did also. I started to want to be more conscious. I didn't want to have a fate that was created from old unconscious things that were not serving me well. There were times I was living out unconscious behaviors with my partner that were directly related to things that happened in my childhood. I experienced these dysfunctional exchanges for over 30 years, not realizing it was directly related to when I was 11 years old. When I became more conscious of what I was doing, I changed the behavior, I didn't wait for him to change. That never works. I changed my own fate. I am happier now than I have ever been and I credit it to becoming more conscious.

Are you aware of any unconscious behavior in your relationships? Are your relationships healthy and fulfilling? Do you have any trouble recognizing what is causing any negative behavior that you have at times? I can help you identify what unconscious things are playing a role in your relationships. Book a free discovery call with me. May we all remember to be gentle with ourselves when we realize that we were living our lives unconsciously and creating undesirable outcomes. No one wants to create that on purpose. Peace be with you. Dawn

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