Is Your Life Balanced?

Glorious morning!

Today let’s expand on a quote about balance.

“ Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving”

If there is one thing I have learned in life, it’s that balance is a requirement to feel peace. When we are not balanced, we are not happy. Think about a simple contemplation such as , if you eat too much, the joy you just spent enjoying the meal has now bloated your belly and zapped your energy. I refer to that as a food coma lol. Thanksgiving is a day where most people over eat. The body loves and needs food but there is such a thing as eating too much and if we do that “ unbalanced eating “ a host of issues can start appearing like weight gain, obesity, high cholesterol, diabetes and the list goes on.

On the other hand when we don't frequently overeat and keep it in balance, our bodies thrive and we ward off disease. This same theory goes for drinking alcohol, shopping for things and spending money, checking your cell phone, going on social media, exercising, working. Again the list goes on and on, so balance is a pretty important aspect of everything we take action on or NOT take action on.

Finding healthy balances in all areas of our lives is the ticket to peace and joy. When I first met my ex-husband I wanted to spend every single free moment I had with him and when I wasn't with him, my mind was constantly thinking of him. It was totally unbalanced, although at the time, I didn't see it that way and if anyone dared to suggest that I was a bit obsessed , I would have thought they were crazy. I supported all of his dreams emotionally and with action. I was very focused on helping him achieve his goals. It may have appeared to be innocent at the time but in reality I was avoiding my own development of myself!

Had I had some balance with that, I would have spent more time thinking and taking action on my own dreams, creating my own financial stability instead of assuming his success would just bless me eventually because we were a “team”. Well we may have been a team but it was definitely an unbalanced team. We were both out of balance. Yes you can even be unbalanced in the giving department. I was definitely the giver and he was the receiver, yes it gave me joy to give, but why so much ? And why to the detriment of my own natural born dreams?

Why was he so willing to receive and be so stingy to give? That my friends is called codependency. Somewhere along the line I took on his responsibility to give and he took on my responsibility to not give. You see by me always being there, by always giving in to his needs, by always helping him with his dreams and not making sure I asked for the same in return, he was able to just keep taking. By always taking I never gave him the chance to give. It also goes a bit deeper. I felt I needed to earn love and validation through giving excessively. He loved the security of me taking care of his every need. The unbalance created and maintained two needy people.

If someone has selfish tendencies from their childhood story, meeting someone who is an over giver as a result of their childhood story, prevents them from learning how to give. And likewise I needed to learn how to receive. Being an over giver is usually driven by low self worth. Being selfish is usually rooted in not receiving love as a child, in other words, they were shown selfishness. Children live what they learn. The good news is, we can learn new ways of balance. I overcame and transformed a lot of my imbalances in many areas of my life and my happiness and joy is now over the top.

Of course, I am still a work in progress but like the bicycle I just keep moving forward in self awareness and action. Do you struggle with imbalances that you can't seem to change? Backpack therapy is amazing at helping identify your childhood story chapters to see where the culprit is and then the plan to eliminate those stumbling blocks. Make a Free discovery call today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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