Its All In How We Think

Our Thoughts Are Our Realty.

Glorious morning!

Today we will expand on a quote from Ekhart Tolle.

“ The primary cause of suffering is never the situation, but your thoughts about it “

For those of you who do not know who Eckhart Tolle is, he was born in 1948 in Germany. He is a spiritual teacher and self help author. He became a spiritual teacher not long after he had suffered from depression for a couple years until one night,at the age of 29, he was contemplating ending his life because he couldn't stand himself any longer . As the experience was happening, he realized something and asked himself a question, WHO is the one who can't stand himself? He thought is there 2 of me? That question was enough to stop the process of ending his life.

When he awoke that morning, he went to the park, sat down on a bench and took his surroundings in as he started the journey of compilation and quest to know who was the witness that night to his thoughts.Those thoughts that were running wild in morbid ways. He was able to wake up to the fact that his thoughts were just that….thoughts. Thoughts are not who we are. Who we are is the “ witness” of those thoughts. Realizing we are the witness is a magical doorway into a life of freedom. I mean look at what Eckhart Tolle has done with his life since that awful night that his thoughts almost won. The fact that WE get to choose what thought we want to affirm is true liberation. If a disparaging thought comes up , say like “ oh my hair looks horrible today” we can either bask in the feelings that the thought ignites OR we can say to ourselves “ I'm not liking my hair today, think i will get a new haircut this week”. Whether we decide to entertain negative thoughts is a choice and it's also a choice how long we focus on something that is hurting us. Yes ,negative thoughts only hurt us.

When we get very protective of our joy and peace, we start being very picky about what we choose to not only think about, but how long we think about things. If it's a rainy cold day, we can wake up and say “ oh yuck, it's miserable out “ and if we keep focusing on that throughout the day, our vibration will be as low as the dark clouds that are above. We can just as easily wake up and say “ Oh , looks like the trees are thirsty and God is answering them “ and that's it , go on with our day with the focus on more high vibration thoughts. So the same goes for missing our loved ones who have transitioned. If we focus and think about how much we miss them for too long of a period of time, it clouds out our joy. It's normal and natural to wish they were still here, but we must eventually focus on the fact that they are in another place where we can't hug them physically anymore. If we do not change our thoughts eventually to the present reality, we get stuck and then overwhelmed by the emotions that the sad thoughts are producing. Our thoughts dictate our reality. We can allow our thoughts to deceive us. We can even allow our thoughts to suggest bad choices that can hurt others. It all begins with a thought.

I had a lot of recurring thoughts throughout my life that men are mostly predators and always looking for a woman to use her body as opposed to looking for a woman to love and share light. My incident that happened to me at the age of 11 with my uncle set in motion a narrative that men will pretend to love you, but when they want something from you, they will just take it , even if it means physically hurting you. Having those negative thoughts dominating my reality made my world pretty bleak. My motivation for life , joy and happiness was clouded by dark thoughts periodically through the years. Now that I have woken up and realized , like Eckhart Tolle did, that it's never about the situation that causes the suffering but our thoughts about it, are true. I don't think that way anymore. I eventually started to put my focus on the men in my life who never hurt me in those ways, like my brothers, my father and male friends. I started to realize there is good and bad everywhere. I celebrate the good and I expand on that now. As far as the bad stuff goes, yes bad will always exist, but I am never forced to think or dwell upon it. It is always a choice. I simply choose better now.

Do you or anyone you know struggle with overthinking the bad in their life? Maybe it's you? Backpack therapy is an excellent tool in bringing awareness to the negative patterns and changing them. Make a free discovery call today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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