What Are You Thinking?

Change your thoughts and your life chages

Glorious morning!

Today we will expand on a quote from the great Buddha.

“ What we think, we become ".

I must admit, even though I know how important it is to think positively, I catch myself feeding into negativity at times. When I look back and evaluate my life, I can prove to myself, Buddha’s quote is true. How about you? Can you see how your life turned out because of the thoughts you were thinking into existence?

It's very powerful to do that because it can help us take more responsibility for our lives and help us to stop blaming others. We also need to not get caught in the trap of allowing circumstances to dictate how our mind feels, for example, let;s say one day you are walking to your car and you look down and find a 100 dollar bill. I mean, YAY, right? We would automatically be in a fabulous mood, even if our prior mood was dismal. The found money can act like an instant catapult to a good mood.

On the flip side, let’s say you are walking to your car and you look at a garbage dumpster that is in the parking lot and see a  disheveled homeless woman and child rummaging through it and collecting thrown out food. UGH how sad. That image could instantly put you in a somber mood and even get you questioning humanity and why all this horrible suffering. That somber mood could very well have replaced an awesome mood you were just experiencing before you witnessed that sad scene.

So yes our thoughts are critical to our life experience. Getting back to what I said earlier about evaluating our lives to see how our thoughts lead us to the very experiences we have is a necessary exercise if we want to really change our lives for the better. When I looked back on the dysfunction that kept playing out in my marriage it led me to question why the same upsets kept repeating over and over. Back then I would believe that the negative events playing out was because of his behavior and that would be followed up with, poor me, I don't deserve that. While it was true there were things I did not deserve to have done to me but why wasn't I doing more to change my horrible experiences?

Because the power was left in his hands each time I threw my hands up and played the victim. That thought pattern kept me in a victim role. When we choose to play victim, we accept powerlessness over a situation. The day I had enough of being a victim was the day my mindset changed. I started to question why am I in this situation and why do I keep allowing it. That required full responsibility on my part and taking any focus off of him and directly on to me. When we have allowed a victim mindset for so long it’s not easy becoming your own hero to save the day, but totally necessary. I started to challenge my old thinking and started believing that I can change anything in my life no matter how challenging it can be. Keeping this new mindset and not falling back to the old way of thinking definitely saved the day. I once thought I was a victim of my childhood experiences and sure enough I was playing out scenarios with my ex husband that were similar to the thoughts around my negative childhood experiences. In my heart it was the last thing I wanted for myself but I was just not aware at the time that it was happening. When we question our old patterns of thinking , we can come up with different solutions to try.

Looking back on my own life it became obvious that the way I was thinking and therefore viewing my life situation was not working out well for me. I changed my thinking and then my life changed in response to that. It's much more sensible to change our thinking than to think we can change someone else. Amen? Do you struggle with repeating experiences in your life that you want to change for good? Backpack therapy is an excellent self awareness tool. Make a free discovery call with me today. Peace be with you, Dawn

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